CHERYL PABERZS, M.S., MFTC
Pronounced “PUB-airz" Pronouns: she/her/hers
I have a Master’s of Science in Couples and Family Therapy from the University of Oregon in Eugene and have been practicing therapy with individuals, couples, families, and groups since 2014. I have experience in practice settings including community mental health, schools, emergency crisis response, and private practice.
My clients would describe my style as authentic, compassionate, curious, and directive. For growth to occur, I believe people require a balance of safety and agitation. As I get to know my clients, I learn their individual strengths and growth areas in order to determine the appropriate pace to suit their needs. It is my goal to create a therapeutic environment that allows you to be yourself while learning how to practice new skills, rediscover lost ones, and connect to something deeper within yourself and with others.
I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) at externship level; this means I am on the road to certification and consult regularly with an official ICEEFT-approved supervisor. EFT is an evidence-based model of relationship therapy that focuses on adult attachment and bonding, leading to long-lasting results in couples therapy. EFT can also work wonders with individuals! Depending on your goals for therapy, I also integrate from the models of solution-focused brief therapy, narrative therapy, dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), behavioral contracting, and Gottman therapy.
In my work with clients, I have most enjoyed working with people looking to enhance their communication skills and sense of connection/intimacy. Many people have witnessed their parents' marriages fail and want so much to avoid those same mistakes - but without good role models, it's common to not know 'how' to make that happen and fear inevitably failing. I'm a strong believer in being proactive and setting your relationship up for success. I also love helping fellow nerds/geeks learn to find their own emotions, appreciate their partner's emotions, and effectively communicate and connect.
Examples of concerns/goals for which I have helped clients find success include: relationship communication enhancement, sex therapy* (including treatment for enhanced intimacy and some sexual dysfunctions), dating issues, anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation, life transitions, increasing mindfulness, pre-marital/pre-childbirth, living with chronic conditions, recovery from trauma, and improving self-esteem. I am comfortable working with teens, young adults, and adults.
My current passion project involves running social skill-building therapy groups utilizing the role-playing game Dungeons & Dragons** (5th edition). Groups are typically arranged by age: middle school, high school, young adults, adults. I have run games with families to enhance their communication, connection, and playfulness. I can also run one-shot games that foster professional team-building. If groups aren't your thing but you still want to use D&D as therapy, I can run a one-on-one therapeutic campaign for you.
2ish years ago, I moved to Colorado from Oregon and I grew up in Michigan. In my free time, I enjoy spending time with my partner and our dogs, hiking, camping, snowshoeing, playing D&D or board games, drawing, painting, attending live music shows, and watching nerdy movies and hockey (go Red Wings!).
I reserve a portion of my caseload for members of the Open Path Psychotherapy Collective. If money is a barrier to you receiving the mental health care you need, check out https://openpathcollective.org
* Sex therapy sessions never involve nudity or sexual behavior/contact between clients or client and therapist. I do not operate as a sexual surrogate. It is unethical for therapists to have sexual or social relationships with their clients.
**Dungeons & Dragons and its related content are IP of Wizards of the Coast; we are not endorsed nor sponsored by WotC.